Saturday, March 23, 2013

Why ME? : 5 stages of grief
Heather's journey thru grief process


 
for a lot of people these words trigger fear, anger, depression.
 
 
what did I do wrong?

I went through this same reaction, I am a religous person and started to question my beliefs... My Best friend (and founder of secureacure4ms) told me, Heather, this is very natural.Your life is changing, and you will learn to accept it.  If your think about it... you are griving your old self...sooon you will accept your new normal.  Once you accept it, you can start living your life again.  AND SHE IS RIGHT!!!!

I thought I would share with you the Grieving process  - Is this what you went through or are going through?  Have you completed all of the steps?  If you havent reached #5, its important that you get there so that you can start living your life to its fullest. If you havent gotten there yet and are having a hard time reaching that step, please talk to Sharon and I and we will try to help you reach that stage either by talking to you or referring you to our well respected resources. 


Here are the 5 stages of grief and how I personally handled each stage -

1. SHOCK and DENIAL




 


I have been diagnosed with what? 

no that cant be right, no one in my family has MS

my doctor is wrong, i am just tired, clumbsy..etc

I may lose my ability to walk?

What do you mean no  CURE?

I am too young to have an incurable debilitating disease

I may have to quit working in near future because of this disease? this disease is going to get me fired as its already screwed things up.

 
2. PAIN and FEELING OF GUILT






 
I brought this upon myself as  I was mean to my brothers growing up. 

 I didnt care about anyone but myself.  

I didnt help enough people.  

I am being punished. 

If I had gone to the doctor more.

If I had not eaten that cupcake and lost weight. 

If I had only exercised more. 

I am too quick to  judge and label people.  


3. ANGER/BARGAINING








What i have done in my life cant be that bad?

What did I do that was sooo horrible?

 I never committed a crime, went to jail..there are murderers on the streets who are fine...why am I being punished?
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I promise to be a better person. 

I promise to put my friends and family first if you take this away

I promise I promise I promise..


4. DEPRESSION,  FEELING OF LONELINESS





Everyone is leaving me.  no one understands. 

They tell me "I look good" but dont really understand what is going on inside, 

There is no one for me to talk to. 

My priorities in life have been all wrong and now its too late 

I cant do anything anymore because I have MS

I have placed work before what is truly important in my life.

OMG I cant tell people at work 

Money doesnt bring me happiness...just material things that i dont really need. 


5. ACCEPTANCE of DISEASE
(my best friend Sharon got me to this stage - thank you Sharon)





I am done living in my lonliness. I am done being Angry.  I am done feeling Guilty.  I am done with all the negativity.  DONE DONE DONE.

I am NOT to blame for this 

I am STILL me. 

MS does not define me as a person. 

I can take charge of my life and be the ME I am meant to be.

I am not going to limit my life anylonger

I am meant to advocate for MS - hence Sharon and I started SecureACure4MS

 I am Hopeful and Believe that a cure is out there,

I no longer say "WHY ME?" its now





SecureACure4MS's motto is:

Never give in, ADAPT
 
A-Attitude - have a positive attitude
D-
Determination
A- Aspiring - want for a cure
P- Perseverance -  be a warrior
T- Thankful - for all the research, discoveries and new treatment options available to us.  Thankful for our amazing families and friends
 
When I accepted that I am not MS Heather and looked at myself as Heather who has MS... my world changed.  It will for you too.  MS doesnt define you, it just explains a few things.  Before I say, I CAN'T DO THAT... I look at the situation and Try...maybe I cannot do it the same way as before, but I can probably still do it, just have to find a different way to go about it.

example.. after my diagnosis, I went on a trip to Niagara Falls.  I love that place, its very beautiful.  It was a very HOT day.  Normally I would just carry a bottle of water and be ok.  But I learned that I need to watch my body temperature.  So any opportunity I had to go inside of a store of gift shop allow the walk of the falls, I did.  I made sure I always had ICE Cold water on hand.  This allowed me to keep my core body temperature low so that I could enjoy the glorious beauty of the falls.  I could have easily said I cannot go out because it was too hot.  Instead I tried some different things first.  It worked for ME. 

The other thing on my trip is there are many observation points on the walk where you climb some stairs to reach these areas.  These are great places to take pictures and just observe its beauty.  With all the walking and the heat I was having trouble climbing the steps to these observation points.  What I found were wheelchair ramps and utitlized them...it allowed me to walk up the points and not burn excess energy.    
NEVER GIVE IN - ADAPT

 

Dont forget to enjoy your life and be present in your life. When you are truly living life, the ride is so much more FUN!!!

Sunday, March 17, 2013

It's the 2nd half of MS Awareness Month



MS Awareness Week comes to a close but MS Awareness Month is still in full force. We are in the 2nd half of this amazing month.

MS Awareness lives and breathes for each of us 365 days a year.  We are honored to have a month of special focus
 
we want a cure
we DESERVE a cure
Let's Find that Cure TODAY

Unfortunately research takes money, which is why you saw many fundraisers throughout the MS Community.  SecureACure4MS is doing their part and teamed up with some great companies to offer great product, with the proceeds going to MS.  Missed out?  dont worry, these fundraisers are going through March 31st


We have MS Awareness Bracelets by Beads by Katrina


We have Living Lockets by Heather Young Origami Owl Living Lockets Independent Designer



We have Scentsy by Kelly Russi



We have our fabulous water canteens and Exclusive Glass Bottles by Hope-2o


 


During MS Awareness Week we were HONORED and Privelaged to bring you 2 incredible guests.  We were first blessed to have Cindy Richman who is MSAA’s Senior Director of Patient and Healthcare Relations.  She shared with us what the MSAA (Multiple Sclerosis Association of America) and what programs they offer.  They are an organization for YOU.  They only want to help you.  They have programs that offer:

Cooling Equipment
Barrier Free Housing
MRI Assistance
Toll FREE Helpline - (800) 532-7667, extension 154 Monday through Friday, 8:30 am to 5:00 pmET

They have a ton of resources at your finger tips,  They have a awesome Lending Librabry that offers

The MSAA Lending Library Program offers books on the following topics:

  • Multiple Sclerosis – Medical
  • Multiple Sclerosis – Daily Living/Care Giving
  • Personal Accounts
  • Health and Wellness
  • Associated Ailments
  • Foreign Language-MS
  • Disability Issues
  • Accessibility
  • DVD/Video/Audio
Visting the lending Library to find out details of this program at http://mymsaa.org/msaa-help/lending-library/

They started SWIM for MS - Swim for MS in any pool at any time - for more details go to http://swimforms.org

Olympic Champion Missy Franklin is our MS Ambassador for Swim MS

Why Swim?  Many MS patients are under the mercy of using assisted devices to ambulate. When in the water, many say its a freeing time, as the assistive devices are not needed.  They no longer have balance issues as they do on solid ground.

For many others who have Heat Sensitivity issues, Overheating makes it difficult to exercise.  When in the water, the water acts as a cooling agent and allows the MS patient to do more without overheating and causing an issue.

If you missed our interview with Cindy Richman, you can listen to it on the MSAA webpage at http://blog.mymsaa.org/

SecureACure4MS is a proud supporter of the MSAA



On March 14th we were honored to speak to Dr Robert Fox.  Dr Fox is the Staff Neurologist and Medical Director at the Mellen Center for Multiple Sclerosis at Cleveland Clinic. He is also the Medical Director for NARCOMS

 
NARCOMS is the North American Research Committee on MS.  They are a Global Patient Registry for patients with MS.  This registy is completely confidential and the information you provide will be used along with the other Registrants for research purposes.  Some of the benefits of joining the registry are:

Benefits of Participation

  • You help provide information needed to learn about Multiple Sclerosis and the progression of disease.
  • You are asked to complete two update surveys each year.
  • You are notified of clinical trials and other studies in which you may be eligible to participate.
There are over 2.1 million MS patients in the world and currenty around 36k registered with NARCOMS - we need to spread the word and get more people registered.  Dr Fox and his collaborating research partners are working hard to find new Disease Modifying Drugs for us, working on a CURE and also doing a lot of research to help those with progressive forms of this disease.

There vision is : 

 

    • The Vision of the NARCOMS Global Patient Registry is to improve clinical care and quality of life for persons with multiple sclerosis and their families through increased knowledge about MS.
    • We strive to develop collaboration between centers of excellence in MS throughout the world to increase knowledge, leading to improved clinical care and quality of life for MS patients.

    if you are not yet a memeber of NARCOMS... go to http://narcoms.org and click on "become a participant"

    If you missed this interview with Dr Fox, it is featured on the NARCOMS website. ( Left side)


    we have great shows lined up for you to close out the month  -


    March 18 - Adam Pinkney, founder of YAMS - Young Americans with MS. 
    March 21 - SecureACure4MS is on the Positive Experience Show
    March 24 - Robert McBurney of Accelerated Cure Project
    March 26 - Author Richard Cheu
    March 28 - MS Advocate Amy Schack




     
    All events came be found on the EVENTS tab at www.secureacure4ms.org (left side of page)
     
     
    We hope you will join us for these exciting events and call in to speak to our guests who would love to answer your questions.  You can also join us is the chatroom during any show and ask your questions there.  Sharon and Heather will then ask them on your behalf.  To chat with us, you will need  a blogtalk account.  Sign up free at Blogtalkradio.com - be sure you are signed in during our shows and interact with Sharon, myself and the other listeners.
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    * some information contained in blog came from MSAA and NARCOMS websites
     
    

    Saturday, March 2, 2013

    March Awareness 2013


     
    Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month
    Multiple Sclerosis Awareness month is an effort by SecureACure4MS and many other MS organizations to spread Awareness of our disease, educate everyone we meet and raise money for this incurable disease. March is a very important month in the MS community.


    Join our Fundraising efforts by shopping below or donating directly to us. All proceeds are donated to MS research and every $1 puts us closer to a cure.

    Here a few Fundraisers that SecureACure4MS is doing to help raise money towards a cure for MS.  100% of proceeds are donated. Take a look and pick up a logo'd canteen, and logo'd tshirt or maybe some logo'd office gear.

     CAFE PRESS
     
     
     
    ZAZZLE
     
     




     

    

     
    Logo Canteens and
    * EXCLUSIVE  Limited Edition Glass Bottles
     
     We will be setting up other Fundraisers with products from

    Tupperware
    March 1-31
     
     
    Oragami Owl - living lockets  - these are amazing
    (make sure it says Heather Young in top right corner)
    join our facebook event where Heather shares ideas and answers your questions
    https://www.facebook.com/events/502912923088960/#!/events/455854187818557/

    March 1-31




     Beads by Katrina - Round beads only $20 and Flat $26
    "like" her page - send her Message letting her know what you want to order


    March 1-31




     

     



     

       
     
       
     Pass these fundraisers on to everyone you know.  Some people prefer to send direct donations...and we welcome them.  Let them know that 100% of every dollar received goes directly to MS.  They can direct donate on our website at http://www.secureacure4ms.org/
     
    MS Awareness Month is about education and awareness as well.  Here are a few ideas on what you can do:
     
    • Wear Orange - paint your nails, wear MS logo'd gear (you can get some great shirts through our stores on cafe press and zazzle), take some orange ribbon and make a ribbon out of it...you can put a hat pin or safety pin through it and wear it or pin one on your purse as a conversation starter.
    • Volunteer at a local MS Awareness Event
    • Spread the Word to everyone
    • get involved in your local support groups
    • Ask local retailers or restaurants to donate proceeds to MS for the Day/Week/Month
    • attend the many free seminars, webinars offered in your area
    • invite friends and family to join you at www.facebook.com/secureacure4ms

     

    SecureACure4MS is bringing you an AMAZING lineup of FREE LIVE Blogtalk shows - here is who we have booked for you so far

     


     

    HOW ARE YOU RAISING AWARENESS?

    MS impacts us ALL - Let's get the word out so we can come closer to finding a cure

    video from MS Society http://nmss.org 

      Some great resourses for you to check out:
       

    Multiple Sclerosis Association of America- http://mymsaa.org/

     
    Nancy Davis Foundation - http://erasems.org/




    National Multiple Sclerosis Society - http://nmss.org

     
    Accelerated Cure Project - http://www.acceleratedcure.org/
     
    Be an MS Activist
    video from MS Society http://nmss.org